{"id":45936,"date":"2020-03-20T09:47:10","date_gmt":"2020-03-20T08:47:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/?p=45936"},"modified":"2020-03-27T09:51:06","modified_gmt":"2020-03-27T08:51:06","slug":"zgodba-para-ki-se-je-znasel-v-slepi-ulici","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/?p=45936","title":{"rendered":"Zgodba para,  ki se je zna\u0161el v slepi ulici"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section bb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.22.4&#8243; background_image=&#8221;http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/10-11-Aleksandra-in-Luka.jpg&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;123px|0px|23px|0px|false|false&#8221; z_index_tablet=&#8221;500&#8243; next_background_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; inner_width_tablet=&#8221;50px&#8221; inner_max_width_tablet=&#8221;50px&#8221;][et_pb_row use_custom_width=&#8221;on&#8221; width_unit=&#8221;off&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;27px|0px|5px|0|false|false&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.21.1&#8243; 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Skupaj i\u0161\u010dejo razloge, ki so privedli do medsebojne odtujitve, in i\u0161\u010dejo poti do novih na\u010dinov povezanosti. 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header_5_text_shadow_vertical_length=&#8221;header_5_text_shadow_style,%91object Object%93&#8243; header_5_text_shadow_blur_strength=&#8221;header_5_text_shadow_style,%91object Object%93&#8243; header_6_text_shadow_horizontal_length=&#8221;header_6_text_shadow_style,%91object Object%93&#8243; header_6_text_shadow_vertical_length=&#8221;header_6_text_shadow_style,%91object Object%93&#8243; header_6_text_shadow_blur_strength=&#8221;header_6_text_shadow_style,%91object Object%93&#8243; z_index_tablet=&#8221;500&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h5>\u00a0<\/h5>\n<h5>O svoji izku\u0161nji sta spregovorila Aleksandra in Luka, par, ki spremlja in deli svoje izku\u0161nje s sodelujo\u010dimi dru\u017einami.<\/h5>\n<p>\u00bbKo sva se pred 29-imi leti poro\u010dila, sem sanjala o popolni dru\u017eini, z odprtim in iskrenim odnosom z Lukom. Najina otroka, ki sta pri\u0161la v prvih letih poroke, sta vpila vso mojo energijo, medtem ko je Luka ves dan pre\u017eivel v slu\u017ebi &#8230; \u00ab Aleksandra pripoveduje brez oklevanja in tehta vsako besedo, kot da i\u0161\u010de tisto pravo, tisto, ki zmore izraziti njena globoka \u010dustva in izku\u0161nje, torej zgodbo o njeni poroki z Lukom in za\u010detku njune krize. \u00bbPrepri\u010dana sem bila, da je moja edina naloga skrbeti zanj, za otroka, dom in se odre\u010di vsemu, kar sem imela v sebi, svojim mislim in idejam, celo \u017eelji, da bi vse poglobljeno delila z njim. Zanemarjala sem razlike med nama in trudila sem se, da bi se \u010dim bolj prilagodila njegovemu na\u010dinu bivanja in razmi\u0161ljanja, saj sem v teh razlikah videla te\u017eave v odnosih, s katerimi se nisem znala spoprijeti. Tako sem se zavajala, da si globoko deliva svoje \u017eivljenje. Vse do trenutka, ko se je grad iz papirja, ki sem ga postavila, sesul &#8230; Do\u017eivljala sem, da imam ob sebi \u010dloveka, ki ne ve, kaj \u017eivim, mene pa ni zanimalo ve\u010d, kaj \u017eivi on. Vedno bolj sem se zapirala vase. Dokler nisem padla v depresijo in nato je \u0161lo vse le navzdol.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Kriza, pojasnjuje danes, je trenutek prehoda, in ne krivda. \u010ce je ne zanika\u0161, \u010de se z njo soo\u010di\u0161 in ji posveti\u0161 \u010das, lahko iz tega izide nekaj pozitivnega &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbPotrebovala sem nekoga, ki bi mi bil takrat ob strani, ki bi mi pomagal razumeti, kaj se z mano dogaja, a po mojem mnenju Luka tega ni mogel in ni hotel, po\u010dutila sem se dale\u010d in nisem razumela, kaj do\u017eivljam. Hodila sva v nasprotnih smereh, razli\u010dnim stvarem sva dajala prednost in tega nisem mogla sprejeti.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Aleksandra na facebooku najde starega prijatelja, osebo, s katero ji uspe spregovoriti o vsem, ki jo globoko razume, ki ima enake potrebe, iste \u017eelje. Zaljubi se vanj in nekega dne sede na vlak in zbe\u017ei od doma.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbMislil sem, da nama gre dobro, saj ko sem Aleksandri povedal, kaj ho\u010dem storiti, mi je vedno govorila, da se strinja,\u00ab predstavi Luka svoj pogled. \u00a0\u00bbKo sem bil zaposlen z novo slu\u017ebo, nisem opazil, da ji gre vse slab\u0161e. Dejstvo, da ne more povedati, kaj \u010duti, sem si razlagal kot njeno brezbri\u017enost za naju in najin odnos. Obsojal sem jo in se prito\u017eeval Bogu ter se omejil na to, da vodim dru\u017eino kot podjetje. Oba sva bila jezna, a nisva si znala tega povedati, zato sva kuhala mulo. Ko je od\u0161la, je vse, za kar sem mislil, da sem zgradil v skoraj 25-ih letih zakona, izginilo. Toda zaradi svojega ponosa sem mislil, da nisem storil ni\u010desar narobe in da je vsega kriva ona.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Po nekaj dneh se Aleksandra vrne. Luka jo sku\u0161a sprejeti z vso ljubeznijo, ki jo premore, a ona ostaja hladna.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bb\u017de kak\u0161en mesec me je Aleksandra prosila, da bi sodelovala v programu <em>Po poti lu\u010di<\/em>,\u00ab se spominja Luka. \u00bbNisem se strinjal, nisem videl potrebe. Prepri\u010dan sem bil, da imam prav, toda v tistem trenutku sem podvomil, da imam glede vsega prav, in odlo\u010dil sem se, da poskusim znova. Poglobil sem se tudi v svoj odnos z Bogom, ki je bil zanjo tako pomemben. Po dolgem \u010dasu sem \u0161el k spovedi in premagal svoje predsodke do nje. Tako sem se odlo\u010dil, da sledim njeni \u017eelji, in sem sprejel, da sodelujeva na te\u010daju.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Toda sedaj Aleksandra ni ve\u010d hotela iti. \u00bbNisem vedela, kako naj mu to povem. Nepredstavljivo mi je bilo, da bi mu povedala, kaj ho\u010dem ali \u010desa no\u010dem. Prepri\u010dana sem bila, da me sploh ne bi poslu\u0161al. Torej, prispela sva na te\u010daj, ki se je \u017ee za\u010del, z moje strani z namenom, da ugotoviva, ali sva lahko \u0161e skupaj.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>Nepri\u010dakovano sodelovanje v programu Po poti lu\u010di odpre \u0161pranjo za dialog med njima.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbS pomo\u010djo drugih parov sva se spet za\u010dela pogovarjati. Povedala sva si stvari, ki si jih med seboj nisva nikoli pripovedovala. Spoznavanje parov, ki so bili kot midva, s podobnimi te\u017eavami, in jim je uspelo nadaljevati skupno potovanje, naju je osvobodilo, da sva si priznala, kaj nama ni \u0161lo dobro, in odkrila sva, da obstaja mo\u017enost, da za\u010dneva znova. Tako sva se neke no\u010di v tistem tednu pogovarjala ve\u010d ur skupaj in si razkrila jezo, ki sva jo imela drug do drugega. V posteljo sva od\u0161la brez besed in takrat se je zdelo, da je res vsega konec,\u00ab pravi Aleksandra.<\/p>\n<p>Naslednji dan Luka vstane in vidi, da Aleksandre ni v postelji. Opazi jo, kako sedi na tleh, v kuhinji, v solzah.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbTistega jutra, ko sem se pogovarjala z Rito (Rita Ventriglia, seksologinja, ki sodeluje pri programu), sem razumela, da so moje te\u017eave podobne te\u017eavam mnogih drugih ljudi in da bo, \u010de ne govorim o tem, vse postalo le \u0161e te\u017eje,\u00ab se spominja Aleksandra. \u00bbTakrat se je nekaj spremenilo: polo\u017eaj je bil enak, te\u017eave so bile enake, vendar sva za\u010dela gledati drug drugega z druga\u010dnimi o\u010dmi. Znotraj sebe sem ugotovila, da \u010de posku\u0161am Luka videti tako, kot bi rada, da bi on videl mene, potem lahko odpustim tisto, kar so po mojem mnenju njegove pomanjkljivosti v odnosu do mene. Lahko sem za\u010dela znova in odkrila sem, da ga \u0161e vedno ljubim. Ni bil on kriv za vse, oba sva bila odgovorna za te\u017eave, v katerih sva se zna\u0161la. Njemu in sebi sem \u017eelela dati novo prilo\u017enost.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbMed te\u010dajem sva razumela, da pogosto vsak od nas prinese v odraslo \u017eivljenje in s tem tudi v zakon rane, ki niso ozdravljene, in te ote\u017eujejo ter lahko uni\u010dijo tudi najlep\u0161e odnose. Iz prve roke sva izkusila, da se te rane ne zdravijo tako, da se pretvarjava, kot da je vse v redu in greva naprej za vsako ceno, temve\u010d tako, da deliva lepe in najte\u017eje trenutke z drugimi pari, ki se morda na svoji poti sre\u010dujejo vsak dan z enakimi te\u017eavami kot midva. Lahko si medsebojno pomagamo, pomembno je, da se pred te\u017eavami ne zapremo, ampak da smo pripravljeni vedno deliti tisto, kar imamo v sebi,\u00ab pripoveduje Luka.<\/p>\n<p>In Aleksandra: \u00bbNi bilo lahko. V mnogih trenutkih sem res mislila, da ne bom zmogla, nisem videla poti in nisem vedela, kam me bo pot vodila. \u0160e vedno je zame naporno, da z Lukom delim to, kar imam v sebi, saj vem, da sva si pri mnogih stvareh razli\u010dna, in to me pla\u0161i. U\u010dim pa se, da lahko prav na na\u0161ih razlikah zgradiva nekaj lepega. Posku\u0161am torej, da me ne bi zaustavil strah, in povem, kar mislim ali si \u017eelim, ne da bi se omejila na to, da mu potrdim, in posku\u0161am dati to, kar sem in kar imam v sebi, brez strahu pred njegovo presojo. V tem obdobju sva rasla skupaj in se u\u010dila ljubiti drug drugega na nov na\u010din. Kon\u010dno se za\u010denjava res spoznavati, z manj zidovi, z ve\u010d svobode in resnice.\u00ab<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00bbZgodovina dru\u017eine je podvr\u017eena krizam vseh vrst, ki so tudi del njene dramati\u010dne lepote.\u00ab Pape\u017e Fran\u010di\u0161ek to poudarja v spodbudi Radost ljubezni, ko navaja, da se krize iz to\u010dke brez povratka lahko spremenijo v prilo\u017enosti za pomembna obdobja rasti. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":45938,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[44,43,57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45936","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-druzine","category-novice","category-revija-novice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45936","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=45936"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45936\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":45945,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45936\/revisions\/45945"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/45938"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=45936"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=45936"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.novisvet.si\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=45936"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}